Emotional intelligence is how well individuals identify and manage their own emotions and their reactions to the feelings of others. Understanding how those emotions will shape your thoughts and behaviour will lead to greater control over your actions and establish skills to manage yourself more adequately.
Emotional intelligence fuels your performance both in the workplace and in your personal life, and it all starts with you.
Understanding and managing your own emotions can advance achievement in all areas of your life, from self-control and social skills to your confidence, optimism and sympathy.
Controlling your emotional energy is a great starting point to changing your life for the better. We suggest starting with these main tips that will provide an excellent beginning to discovering the foundations of emotional intelligence.
1. Pay Attention to How You Behave
When working on emotional awareness, take the time to notice your behaviour too. Pay attention to how you act when you’re experiencing certain feelings and how they affect your day-to-day life. Controlling your emotions becomes easier when you become more aware of how you react to them.
2. Responding Instead of Reacting to Conflict
Often during times of conflict, emotional outbursts and feelings of anger are common. But an emotionally intelligent person knows how to stay calm during stressful situations and avoid making impulsive decisions that can lead to even bigger problems. A solution to the conflict is the goal, and so they make a conscious decision to ensure their actions and words align with solving the problem.
3. Learn to Observe and Accept Your Emotions
Nowadays, it’s far too easy for us to lose touch with our emotions. Emotional acceptance promotes mindfulness or seeing the emotion for what it is without attempting to get rid of it.
Try setting a timer for various points of the day. When the timer goes off, identify the emotion you are experiencing. Take a few deep breaths and pay attention to what that emotion physically feels like in your body and the sensation.
The more you practice, the easier it will become.
4. Maintain Positive & Celebrate the Positive
Staying positive is key. A negative attitude quickly infects others if a person allows it to. Emotionally intelligent people have an awareness of the moods of those around them and guard their attitude accordingly. They know what to do to have a great day and have a confident outlook.
Celebrate and reflect on the positive moments in life. In general, people who stay positive have more significant and more fulfilling relationships.
5. Reflect on Negative Emotions
Reflecting on negative feelings is just as important as reflecting on positive feelings. Understanding why you feel negative is critical to becoming a strong, happy individual who can deal with negative emotions in the future.
Remember, being an emotionally intelligent person is a lifelong process. It’s a practice, not a perfection. Some days you will be more aware of your thoughts and emotions than others.
Written by: Melissa Ureten